How to give an amazing head
It’s explosively effective to please your partner orally. Most guys love it, while some 40 percent of women don’t. And yes, we are talking about giving head. In this article, we will be sharing the formula for providing an amazing head.
Some people give their partners head on a special occasion, but others just simply don’t. The sad thing is, that this sometimes leads to a very dull sex life. Well, we’re offering you the chance to rejuvenate your sex life by learning the formula on how to give an amazing head.
But first, let’s get some fundamentals out of the way about the art of giving head. First, let’s make sure we are all on the same page.
What is Giving Head?
Giving head is the act of a person using the mouth to sexually excite a man’s genital area. This generally means inserting a man’s penis inside your mouth, giving them sexual pleasure. It is also called fellatio, and it is more widely known as a blow job.
And no, a blow job has nothing to do with blowing.
What is Oral Sex About?
Well, a Blowjob entails the creation of those sensations men have when inside a vagina during sexual intercourse. You should make your partner feel at home when inside your mouth.
And how would you manage that?
First of all, you need to get comfortable with your partner’s penis inside your mouth. Just let your mouth and your tongue be relaxed around his penis. A trick into making him love being inside your mouth is opening up your throat to the very thought of swallowing his sperm together with his cock.
The 3 Vaginal Sensations
Your goal here is to simulate and do a faux vagina with your mouth and hands. You want to recreate the 3 sensations that guys describe to create an amazing sexual intercourse experience when they first enter a woman’s vagina.
And that is a combination of heat, moisture, and pressure. Your mouth creates the heat and moisture while your hand, tongue and lips create the pressure.
So, how do we create these pleasing sensations?
Heat
As far as heat is concerned, your mouth is warm by default. So, the heat required to simulate the warmth of a vagina is already there.
However, there are some Sexual Stimulants and Treats for oral play if you want to spice things up a little and have fun with your partner.
Moisture
For this sensation, you want to try giving them the wet and icky feeling a man has when he’s inside of a very wet vagina during sexual intercourse.
Lubrication is probably the most important thing that can be given in either sexual intercourse or giving head since it cuts down on friction while making it a more pleasurable sensation.
Ever hear the old saying, “There’s nothing worse than a dry pussy”?
So, for that wet and icky feeling, one needs to learn to relax and let the mouth collect more saliva. The important thing to remember here is that the more wet and slimy it gets, the more pleasurable it will be for your partner. And do not worry it gets all messy, a blowjob is already a messy deed. So do not be held back by anything, get as messy and freaky as you want; your partner is most likely to appreciate the erotic part in you.
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Pressure
Surely, you must be aware that when men have sex with women with tight pussy, they tend to experience more sexual pleasure, hence they cum much sooner. Therefore, pressure may play a very important role in pushing your partner over the orgasmic edge. But it also needs to be underlined that this should be of a gentle kind and that friction should be as small as possible.
Using Your Hands
Wrap your hand or fingers around the head of the penis to form a ring and connect them with your lips. Then, while moving up and down, let your hand/fingers also move along with your lips as you stroke, while lightly squeezing their shaft with your fingers.
Using Your Tongue
To give the sense of pressure the vagina walls would have on the penis, allow it to pass over your tongue to the back of your mouth as if you want to swallow it. Then, with your tongue on the roof, use it to gently press the penis up and against the roof as it slides out of your mouth.
The amount of force you place with your tongue can regulate how much pressure your partner feels when inside your mouth. Keep your tongue soft and relaxed when applying the pressure.
Using Your Lips
You can also put your lips together to apply pressure and act like the entrance of a vagina. The lips are very good at stimulating the corona and glans of the penis. Another advantage of using your lips is that you can use them to cover your teeth by pulling them slightly towards the inside of the mouth.
Well, now, before we dub you with the title of Queen of the Magic Swords, let us tell you some general properties of those Magic Swords. As they say, Knowledge is power.
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Understanding The Penis
The secret to learning how to give an awesome head is first understanding a penis. Let’s now look at a penis structure to get a better understanding of these magnificent swords.
But first, what’s this Magic Sword or penis we speak of?
What is The Penis?
A penis is the male genital organ, which is primarily used for sexual intercourse and urinating. It consists of erectile tissue that allows it to stand whenever they are aroused but is very richly supplied with nerve endings, making the penis very sensitive.
The picture below is a classic representation of what the penis would look like. Keep in mind that all the penises are different from one another by shape and size.
Defining The Structure of a Penis
- The scrotum – is the sack of skin that hangs underneath the base of the penis and contains two balls known as testicles.
- The shaft – is the length of the penis from the base to the head.
- The base of the shaft – is where the penis starts to extend out and also acts as a reference point when measuring the length of the penis.
- Corona – is the mushroom-like ring around the base of the Glans, which also divides the Glans and shaft.
- Glans of the penis – the glans is the head of the penis, it is the area above the Corona ring.
- Foreskin – is the fold of skin that covers the Glans, it can be pulled back to reveal the glans. Some people get it removed through the procedure known as circumcision. However, some people are not circumcised but when the penis is erect, the foreskin is stretched and it will appear circumcised.
- The urethral opening – is the small opening located at the tip of the penis which is also on the Glans. This opening is used for urinating or ejaculating semen and sperm (also known as cum).
- The perineum – is the area between the anus and scrotum.
- The frenulum – is the elastic fold of the skin that joins the underside of the glans with the inner surface of the foreskin. Its function is to help the foreskin contract over the glans.
- The seam – is the line that joins the two halves of the scrotum.
It is important to note that not everyone is the same, and we all have our preferences in terms of where and how we’d like to be touched or sexually aroused. But a few methods generally work with most people.
Oral Sex Techniques
There are many different methods/techniques one may want to try to enhance the blowjob experience for both partners even further. Still, remember that since we are all a little different in our ways, some people may find certain sensations pleasing while others may not.
Psychological stimulation
Many guys are already fantasizing about receiving oral sex and that fuels their excitement, boosting their eagerness to get it.
It just is not a natural thing to do, insert another person’s genitals into your mouth. Thus, the thought of his penis being in your mouth may alone sometimes be enough to push them over the orgasmic edge.
So, just imagine your partner seeing his penis disappear into your mouth. Honestly, that is quite an erotic sight to look forward to.
Using Your Tongue
The tongue alone can give those erotic sensations that send sparks up the spine and make one rise to sexual pleasure. There are several tricks one can try and have them feel as if they were floating on clouds.
First Method
You can start by licking their entire shaft like a lollipop or ice cream before sliding their penis deep inside your mouth. The trick is to keep your whole mouth wet and relaxed.
Second Method
The frenulum is one of the most sensitive parts of the man’s organ. So, lick the frenulum with your tongue in an up-down or side-to-side motion.
Third Method
Insert the glans inside your mouth and then swirl your tongue around it. Again, keep your tongue wet and relaxed. Swirl your tongue both clockwise and anticlockwise to get a feel for which direction he enjoys more.
Fourth Method
Once the head of his penis is in your mouth, lightly run your tongue over the opening of the urethra. You can trace a circle around the open hole, make up-down movements or side-to-side movements, or even tongue fuck their dick by running the tip of your tongue into the opening.
Fifth Method
When licking their shaft, moving it in and out of your mouth, do a sort of tongue-hug to the penis.
Sixth Method
To send your partner completely over the orgasmic edge, stroke the frenulum lightly with your tongue or fingers. And, during the come/ejaculation, continue to stroke the frenulum to create an even stronger orgasm.
Using Your Mouth
Giving an amazing head means using every part of your mouth. Caress their penis; find some new sensations and make them feel the unknown.
You can stroke their penis against the roof of your chicks, against the top of the mouth, or even against the underside of the tongue. You may also want to try sucking hard on their penis to see if that’s a thing they like.
Using Your Teeth
The most helpful tip to pleasure your lover with an amazing head is not to use the teeth at all. Push your tongue out over your lower teeth and place your upper lip over your top row of teeth so that your teeth do not contact their penis.
Using Your Hands
Blowjobs don’t have to be all about the penis and the mouth; your hands can add so much pleasure, too. With your hand well lubricated, stroke the shaft up and down while slightly tightening your grip.
Give your lover the sensation of being deep in a tight vaginal as you stroke between the base and the corona. Make sure that there’s enough lubrication that your hands glide over the shaft friction-free. You can work a few techniques into a blowjob using your hands, including some simple up-and-down strokes or even some twist motions as you stroke up and down.
Stimulating The Testicle
Yes, the testicles are very sensitive, and some will be sceptical about letting you play with their sack. However, some people do find quite stimulating and pleasurable the feeling of having one’s testicles fiddled with.
The best way to find out if your partner enjoys having them stimulated and how to do it is by exploring his sack by gently fiddling with them. Please note that the keyword here is gentle.
Use Your Hand and Fingers
Put their testicles in one hand and gently start caressing them by applying light pressure with the palm and fingers. You can tease one testicle at a time, but mind that you do not scramble them; the left ball should remain in its correct position, left, and the right ball on the right.
You can also apply lubricant to the testicles and explore new sensations.
Use Your Mouth and Tongue
Using the tongue and the mouth is one of the most effective ways to create pleasurable, toe-curling sensations on your partner’s testicles.
You can lick or trace your tongue from the back of the sack, perineum, along the seam to the front, base of the shaft. You could also hold their testicles in your mouth, gently swirling your tongue around them.
Stimulating The Perineum
This is another neglected part of the body, but so sensitive to the touch. Many find it very pleasurable when this area is being stimulated.
Stimulation of the perineum can be done by your tongue or fingers. You may lightly caress it with your tongue or your fingers and/or very gently massage it with your fingers in a circular motion.
Anus Stimulation
Simple touching of the anus may be stimulating enough. So, lubricating and caressing the opening of the anus in different motions may be very pleasing for most.
You can get a little extreme, inserting your finger into the anus of your partner and finger fucking them while giving them a blow job. Otherwise, you could use Butt Plugs or Prostate Massagers instead of using your finger for the most extreme pleasure.
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Blowjob Positions
The position that you give the blowjob in, does matter in the intensity of the pleasure your partner will go through. Try all the positions to find out, what works best for you and your partner.
One thing to note is that no matter how effective these positions are, it won’t matter if you’re not enjoying the blowjob yourself. Therefore, make sure you’re in a very comfortable position.
Between The Legs
Comfortably position yourself in between their legs, take their penis into your mouth and let your mouth do the talking. Utilize what you have learned up to now.
Missionary-Like Position
Have them lie on their back, knees up with their legs wide open. You will be granted total access to their penis, sack, perineum and anus.
Upside-Down Squat
Have them bring their knees to their chest while lying on their back and with their butt slightly raised. You get on your knees and tuck them under their bum for support; that should give you a nice view and easy access to his penis.
Side-Lying Horizontally
Lying or kneeling alongside your partner at right-angle or perpendicular to them with your partner facing upwards, apply the blowjob techniques that we have mentioned above. This will give your partner a different sensation that they might find extremely pleasurable.
Another thing you could do is that while giving them a blowjob, rest your head on their tummy and have the penis facing towards their chest.
Angular On The Side
For this position, lie next to your partner with your head lying slightly either towards their head or feet. You can do this either by laying on your tummy or standing on your knees in a dog-style position.
Also when you are facing in the direction of their feet, it allows them to reach and fiddle with your crotch for your enjoyment as well.
The 69 Position
This is a well-known position where you’re both going down on each other at the same time. Below are a few 69 positions for you to try with your partner.
Position One
With your partner lying down on their back, get on your knees and straddle their head while facing their feet. Assume a face-down position toward your partner’s crotch to eat them out while they eat you out, too.
Position two
This position is the same, for the most part, as the previous one except your partner will be lying down with their head hanging over the edge of the bed. And instead of straddling their head while on your knees, you’ll be standing on the floor. Or the other way around.
Position three
Have your partner sit up with their legs wide open. While standing on your feet, straddle their waist with your legs and face their feet. Then bend over such that your crotch is in their face and your face down in their crotch. Use your hands to balance.
One more thing
If you were wondering why our partners love and enjoy blowjobs so much? Well, it’s because the mouth has lips, teeth and tongue. All of which are capable of creating unique yet intense sensations. Not to mention, the thought of having their penis inside your mouth alone is sexually stimulating.
You can also let your partner experience an even more intense orgasm by swallowing, let them come inside your mouth and swallow it all. If swallowing is too much for you, you can allow them to come inside your mouth and spit it out, come on your face or your chest. It does sound wild, but they will love it.
And there you have it, how to give an amazing head. You’re now ready to go down and have your partner squirm and moan in blissful pleasure.
