How to massage foreplay with your partner
Massages are always a brilliant idea to slow things down and relish connecting with a partner. Massages can be one of the most relaxing, romantic, and intimate moments between you and your lover. So we will let you know some tips and ideas on how to massage foreplay with your partner and how to give them a relaxed yet pleasurable experience.
Adding massage into foreplay opens a whole new door to sexual pleasures. Learning how to perform massage foreplay will bring so much to your sexual life and also to the emotional satisfaction of your partner.
What is a Massage?
A massage is the act of pressing and rubbing someone’s body to make them relax. This improves the blood flow in the body, lessens muscular tension, and stimulates the nervous system. This cuts down stress and helps in healing the tissues and the mind.
How Does a Massage Relate To Foreplay?
It is an excellent way of shooting your partner into physical and mental healing as one provides the sexual high. This physically and mentally rejuvenates them, as well as emotionally.
It allows you to attend to your partner’s physical, mental, and emotional needs simultaneously. Foreplay is much more than just preparing both you and your partner for penetration. All that is required is simply a little effort along with an open mindset.
Now, before you start massaging the body, you also need to know that massaging the mind is equally necessary.
Romantic Gestures
If your goal is to give your partner a great sexual experience, you first have to make your partner desire your attention without having to touch them. You have to get your partner to feel appreciated and missed.
How do you achieve that?
You don’t have to do anything complicated. All you have to do is show them that you love and care about them.
Romantic Gifts
Send your partner a romantic gift with a small and simple message, like “I love you” or “I miss you”. The gift could be anything which you or your partner feels is romantic; flowers, a box of chocolate, jewellery, a gaming console or even a sex toy. The sky is the limit, as long as it’s something your partner loves.
Text Messaging
Just send a message like, “I love you,” the moment you or your partner leave for work or maybe just go out with friends. Let them know how you feel but be brief and simple.
At any random moment, while your partner is probably busy with their daily work or something, send them a text just for the sake of letting them know that you miss them. And when finally seeing them, wrap them up in your arms and give a warm hug as if you haven’t seen them since forever and whisper into their ears, “I missed you”.
Sexting
Get in touch with your naughty side and send naughty messages, pictures/memes, and videos to your partner. Yeah, don’t be scared of getting all naughty and dirty with them. I mean, if you guys are cool with it, then why not? Let them know what exactly is going on in the naughty section of your brain.
The naughtier you can be with your partner, the more relaxed they will feel about expressing their naughty side to you, and vice versa. Sometimes people are a little shy about sharing their naughty side, but also because they may think that others would judge them for this. So, assure your partner that it’s okay to be naughty with each other.
Romantic Ambience
Moments like these are more magical and rewarding when you make it a surprise. So, make all the necessary preparations without your partner finding out.
Also, ensure the room is clean and neat. Both you and your partner will feel more comfortable and relaxed in a neat place.
The Massage Bed
The massage table is the tool of the trade where massage professionals lay and position their clients during massage manipulation.
Since you give the massage at home, you probably do not have a massage table, and that is perfectly fine. You can do the massage anywhere, which can be on the bed, couch, or the floor, so long as you are comfortable and relaxed.
Massage Oils
Massage oils are products in the highest demand by massage therapists. This is a slightly greasy substance that allows the hands, when massaging, to glide along the skin.
Choose a massage oil that you think your partner will like and enjoy, and make sure that you are not allergic to it at all.
Room Temperature
Put the temperature in the room to a comfortable setting, this will depend on your partner as they are going to be naked. You can use a heater or a fan to regulate the room’s temperature to your and your partner’s comfort level.
Romantic Lighting
Dim the lights and give the room a romantic scenery by switching off or dimming the lights, giving way to the candles instead. But please be careful when burning candles; they can be dangerous when left unattended.
The Use of Scented Candles
It is candle wax combined with aroma oils whose purpose is to emit fragrance when set alight. These scented candles are being used, not only to make rooms smell nice but also, to change our mood and make us feel good.
Flower Peddles
One can’t deny the fact that flowers signify romance and love. Hence rose peddles work the best when it comes to gaining someone’s attention, and it gives that very romantic feel. Sprinkle the rose peddles on the bed, floor, and in the bathroom.
Relaxing Music
It amazes how this genre of music relishes our minds and bodies with its truly calming effect. If somebody wants to create a relaxed and calm atmosphere, then instrumental or ambient music can be a good choice, which gives a soothing effect to your body and soul.
The effect of such genres of music can be helpful concerning our psychological functions. It is good in terms of slowing the heart rate, lowering blood pressure, and decreasing the levels of stress hormones.
No interruptions
Take this opportunity to unplug from those other responsibilities, be it school or work, and connect. So, now put your phones on “do not disturb” mode, or simply turn them off, and place them somewhere away from you so that you are not interrupted.
Communication is Key
Ask your partner what they would like from a massage. We all have fantasies, so ask them about their massage fantasies. Also, enquire about parts of their body that hurt or are sore.
Keep the lines of communication open and ask how it feels before you go further. Keep checking in to see if they are comfortable and that the amount of pressure you’re using is good.
If, for any reason, your partner wants you to stop mid-massage, then you have to stop. You mustn’t force your partner to do something they are uncomfortable with.
The Body Massage
Since you will be close to each other, you need to make sure that your scent is pleasant. Hence, you can either shower together or take a relaxing bubble bath together before the act. And, of course, yes, do not forget to brush your teeth.
Use clean sheets or towels for your partner to lie on and to cover their parts. Pillows may also be used to support the head, back, or knees if needed. Good massage oils will also be used that both of you will enjoy, as well as not having an allergic reaction to massage oil.
Neck and Back Massage
Have your partner first lie on their stomach to massage the neck, shoulders, and lower back area. Beyond your palms and fingers, you can use your forearms as well to do this massage.
Many people do suffer from lower back pains, so spending more time massaging their lower back can be quite a treat and relaxing. The lower back is also sensitive to pressure, therefore it can also be sexually stimulating for your partner.
Foot Massage
The feet are quite sensitive, which explains why we’re so ticklish under them. Sometimes when receiving a foot massage, we get sexually excited because of that sensitivity.
Add more massage oil to your hands and start soothingly rubbing the bottom of the feet in little and big circles with your thumbs. If they are too ticklish beneath their feet, you will have to bypass this part. But if she enjoys the foot massage, then it is worth spending some time on.
Leg massage
A massage of the legs is soothing yet teasing. Gently massage their calves in motions that move up and down, in a zigzag, circular, and pinching fashion. The back of the knee can be rather ticklish, too, so be prepared.
The inner thighs are the erotic area of both men and women. Provide them with a firm yet light massage. Tease your lover by casually touching their groin as if you did it accidentally.
Butt Massage
Give each of your partner’s buttocks a great thorough massage. The massage of the buttocks can be very stimulating for your partner, so take your time and simply enjoy yourself.
Hand and Arm Massage
Give them a full hand and arm massage, take your time, and leave no stone unturned. Massage all their fingers, hands, and arms, and slowly work your way to their chests.
Safety precautions
- Your hands must be clean.
- Ensure that all of your fingernails are well-trimmed and smooth.
- Use plenty of massage oil or lube so your hands and your partner’s genitals will be well lubricated.
- Make sure neither one of you is allergic to any of the products that will be used.
- And, be very gentle.
Massage For Her
Now, ask her to turn and lie on her back facing up. Cover her crotch and breasts with two separate towels. You may be raising this question in your mind, why cover her bits with a towel?
Well, the concept is to excite both you and your partner psychologically.
Re-positioning
Begin with massaging her neck, shoulders, and head. Massage her arms again and keep them by her hips whenever you are through with them.
Move back up so that you are just above her head. Lean down and plant an upside-down kiss on her first, asking her if she is okay, then continue the massage. Also, make sure she is relaxed and comfortable, too.
Breast Massage
Breasts, being softer and fragile, are a lot more sensitive compared to the butt cheeks. So, handle them with a little finesse. That said, she will let you know if she wants you to massage them a bit harder. Remember, always keep the communication channels open.
Begin with massaging the shoulder joints, then slowly slide your hands under the towel to give her a gentle breast massage from the base to the nipples. Stop at her nipples, give a soft squeeze-pull upwards, and let go.
Just don’t stop if she’s enjoying it. After a little while, give her a slightly firmer massage with a gradual increase in rhythm. Imagine her breasts are molded out of clay and you mold and re-mold them to form certain shapes. Just play with them and if she has an orgasm, it’s a bonus.
After massaging her breasts, reposition yourself beside her, then massage your way up her legs from her feet.
Pussy Massage
Lightly bend her knees then just let her legs relax to the sides. Let her know that she can just relax and enjoy.
But hang on there tiger, safety comes first.
We’ve stated this above, but let me reiterate, safety precautions should be first and foremost taken before you ever touch her pussy. The last thing she wants or needs is some bad reaction or infection in her love area.
Vulva Massage
Next, apply the massage oil or lube to her vulva and with your hand, give her vulva a good slow and gentle massage. Take your time—and I mean take your time—and enjoy watching her moan and squirm under your touch.
This is also a perfect opportunity to learn more about your partner’s body: where she’s more sensitive, where, and how she likes to be touched or stimulated.
Sexual Satisfaction
Some get satisfied with just one or two orgasms. Some, well, they want a lot of them. So if your partner wants a lot of orgasms, then by all means make sure she is satisfied.
But leave some for tomorrow, alright. (wink)
Clitoral Massage
Slide your hand up and down over her vulva a few times while you focus your attention on her clitoris or clit. Then use your fingers to massage her clit in circular or up-and-down motions.
You can also massage the clit by delicately pinching and rubbing it between your fingers. And you can stroke the clit just like a penis. However, take it easy because the clitoris is super sensitive. Play around with her anticipation- not focusing on one area for too long.
Using Sex Toys
If you and your partner are cool with using sex toys, you can use a vibrator to give her even more intense orgasms. You can rest the vibrator on her clitoris, insert it into her vagina, or do both if you want to drown her in pleasure.
Body Massage
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Massage For Him
Ask him to turn and lie on his back facing up. Cover his crotch with a towel. And why cover his crotch when can see his erection through the towel?
Well, it’s a lot more enticing when you let your imagination go to work.
Repositioning
Start by massaging his neck and head. Massage his arms once again and place them on the sides.
Move back up, positioning yourself above his head. Lean down first and give him an upside-down kiss, asking if he is all right before continuing the massage. Tell him to be relaxed and comfortable as it is important.
Chest Massage
Give him a nice chest massage before heading down to his crotch. And of course, do not forget his nipples. You may not believe it, but small as they are, they can be so sensitive to touch.
Now, position yourself beside him, then massage your way up to the legs from the feet.
Dick Massage
Slightly bend his knees and just let his legs fall to the sides. Ask him to relax and enjoy himself.
But before.
A penis is not just an instrument of pleasure but his pride, his manhood and a spear of joy. And therefore it is to be handled with love and care. So please, make sure to take all necessary safety precautions, as above-mentioned, before actually touching his penis.
Teasing Him
Tease him a little to play with his anticipation by gradually slipping your hands underneath the towel. Run a line from his anus to his perineum, down to his scrotum and the opening of his penis at the front.
This will probably get him hard, with his mind overflowing with excitement and anticipation. At this point, he’ll most probably be expecting you to give him a little handjob. Plus, the sensation he feels due to the towel rubbing the glans can be pleasurable too.
Massage His Shaft
Anoint the massage oil or lube all over his penis, and with your hands give him a nice slow and gentle massage. Using your hands, stroke the shaft of his penis from the tip to the base of it and back up.
And remember, the aim is to give him immense pleasure; therefore, be patient. Take your time and enjoy watching him moan and squirm as you pleasure him.
Glans and Corona
Wrap your hand around the glans of his penis, then just wiggle your hand around. Try giving him varied sensations by placing the palm of your hand atop the glans and corona of the penis, and your fingers on the frenulum, or vice versa.
Tease his anticipation, too, by not focusing on one spot for a long period. After a few strokes on the glans and corona, massage his shaft.
Orgasm
When he is near ejaculation, proceed to massage only the glans and corona of his penis while gradually speeding up the rhythm. When he starts to ejaculate, don’t stop massaging his penis until he has fully ejaculated.
A little heads up, if you continue massaging his penis through the climax and it is too intense, he will most likely pee too. The cum will be immediately followed by urine.
Using Sex Toys
To give him earth-shattering orgasms, you can use a prostate massager along with giving him a dick massage. Trying something like this will open doors to great sexual pleasures.
Provided, you have talked to your partner and you are on the same page about the introduction of an adult toy and use it on him.
One more thing
Yes, it might not be a Valentine’s Day, but it will surely make them feel like it is. That’s the magic behind it. Always be soft and be bold only where your partner wants you to be. If your partner falls asleep during a massage, cover them up with a sheet or towel and let them rest.
And lastly, don’t forget to enjoy yourself and relish the whole feeling. The more fun you’re having in pleasuring your partner, the more your partner will be getting off from being pleasured by you. To further enhance the massage experience and let it feel more instinctive, we suggest that you learn how to give a massage before you massage foreplay your partner.
Give more time to foreplay, and you will realize that their climax is bound to be far more intense and enjoyable. There goes your guide on how to massage foreplay with your partner. We hope you all have fun and get on enjoying yourself.
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