How to enjoy giving head
No one can deny that receiving the best blowjob is something desired by most. Unfortunately, we can’t say the same about giving a blowjob (head). In this article, we’ll share some tips on how to enjoy giving head and gaining the confidence you need to give your partner the best head.
Not only does giving a good head (blowjob) feel amazing for your partner, but it’s also empowering for you as well. It is self-uplifting to know, that you’ve got what it takes to make a person moan and squirm under you.
We want you to give your partner the kind of head that they’ll be fantasizing about later when masturbating. So, whether you want to try giving head for the first time or you’re simply looking for some ideas to spice things up in the bedroom, learning how to enjoy giving head can benefit you and your relationship.
Just Be Yourself
It’s important to understand that you’re just a person interacting with another person. It’s not your job to be a porn star, and you don’t have to do anything too crazy or dangerous to please your partner.
Your task is not only to please your partner but to also enjoy giving head and be comfortable about whatever you’re doing.
Pleasuring Your Partner
You may not be the biggest blowjob fan in the world but you should, at least, be a little turned on by the thought of giving your partner pleasure. If your partner loves a blowjob, that is more reason to be excited about giving your partner head.
The thought of being able to make your partner squirm under you, that you can make them moan and say dirty things to you. That alone should be a huge turn-on for you.
Be Comfortable
Although the aim may be to pleasure your partner, it’s important to make sure that you’re comfortable with everything before proceeding any further.
That said, you should go into it with an open mind and be willing to try new things. However, it’s important to understand that you must never sacrifice your safety and comfort for another person’s pleasure.
Enjoy Yourself
As much as this is about giving your partner sexual pleasure and satisfaction, you also have to enjoy it as much as possible. It’s not just about them but the both of you.
You don’t have to do anything that you’re not comfortable with or anything that doesn’t give you any form of pleasure in return.
Be Safe
We would argue that this is, by far, the most important thing to consider. Your safety takes priority over everything, it’s non-negotiable.
If you don’t feel comfortable or safe at any point in the blowjob, you can stop and remove yourself from the situation. You’re never in too far that you can’t pull back.
Add Some Lube
A dry blowjob is not pleasurable for anyone and although your mouth is moist, sometimes spit just doesn’t do it. And that’s where a lubricant becomes your friend. Try flavoured lubricants to make the experience more pleasurable for them and more fun for you.
Dick Massage
Like we’ve said before on How to give amazing head, giving head isn’t just about using your mouth. Just squeeze out a few drops of lubricant onto your hands and give your partner a nice and smooth dick massage before your mouth takes over. Most of our lubricants are suitable for oral pleasure, try our wide range of flavoured lubricants.
Be Hydrated
You could also hydrate yourself with a sugary drink to produce that thick stringy saliva. This will make your mouth more slippery and make the experience even more pleasurable for your partner.
Take the Lead
Take it slow and easy, you’re in control now and there’s no need to rush. You just need to relax, stay calm, enjoy yourself, and take your time. This is your chance to explore every inch of their penis and watch them moan and squirm as you stimulate their pleasure spots.
Be Confident
If you know that you’re good at giving head, you’re more likely to enjoy it. And, if you’re enjoying giving head, your partner will surely enjoy receiving it.
If you don’t think you’re good at giving head yet, you just need to practice. Practice makes perfect and your partner will not mind helping you practice. They will be thrilled to learn that you want to better your skills at giving them pleasure.
Make Your Own Pace
Start slowly while keeping a regular rhythm with your mouth to help you build up excitement for the big O. But you don’t need to keep bobbing your head up and down till you get bored.
Instead, create different rhythmic patterns that your partner will enjoy with a gradual increase in speed.
Try playing around with the depth of your stroke. Start with all shallow, then move to a mix of shallow and deep, and finish with just deep or shallow strokes, depending on what your partner likes more.
Take a Break
If you get tired and your jaw starts to ache, take a short break before getting back to your lollipop. In the meantime, you should keep them entertained without ruining the moment.
How..?
Keep them excited by going up for a kiss while giving them a Handjob. Or while giving them a Handjob, ask them in a seductive voice if there’s anything specific that they’d like you to do for them.
Another thing you could do is have them watch you playing with yourself, that can be a huge turn-on for some people. And, if your partner is okay with the use of sex toys, you could use a masturbator or vibrator on them or yourself.
Take Your Time
Never underestimate the power of teasing and taking it slow. Honestly, foreplay is just not complete without a little bit of teasing. The idea is to use your partner’s anticipation to build up their sexual desire to its peak.
When giving head, you’re in control of the situation therefore, you get to do what you want. So, take your time and watch them beg for mercy as they surrender themselves to you. And, on top of that, you’re less likely to make mistakes when you take your time, which will also give you the confidence you need to give an amazing blowjob.
Anticipation
When you move down to your partner’s crotch and pull out their penis, they’re already anticipating a blowjob. The aim is to use that anticipation to your advantage.
Explore their body first by gently kissing and licking their lips, neck, chest, tummy, belly button and inner thighs before finally letting your lips touch their penis.
Exploring Other Parts
Before taking their penis into your mouth, start by kissing the entire penis and licking the urethral opening. Then, swirl your tongue around the glans before tracing your tongue down their shaft to the scrotum.
If you’re okay with it, lick their scrotum like it was coated with chocolate or honey. Suck the whole sack into your mouth and swirl your tongue around it. You can make the experience even tastier by using flavoured lubricants.
The withdrawal tease
From the scrotum, with your tongue relaxed, wet and wide, lick to the tip of the penis before sliding the penis into your mouth. Slowly slide their penis deep into your mouth, then pause for a second or two before sliding it back out.
When sliding their penis in and out of your mouth, try to avoid using your teeth to stimulate their penis. Only use your teeth if it’s something they like.
Then, move back to repeat Exploring other parts. This can drive a person crazy and make them beg to be inside your mouth, thus pushing them to or over the edge of an orgasm.
Stimulating the Penis
Watching your partner squirm and moan in absolute pleasure and being the one responsible for it is a rewarding experience. So, to learn how to stimulate the sensitive areas of a penis, you first must know every part of it. The image below is an example of a human penis.
The main idea in giving head is to mimic and make an imposter vagina with your mouth. The mouth is capable of creating the same sensations as the vagina and more. Unlike the vagina, the mouth has movable parts such as lips, tongue and teeth.
The frenulum
This is the elastic fold of the skin that joins the underside of the glans with the inner surface of the foreskin. Its function is to help the foreskin contract over the glans.
The frenulum is one of the most sensitive areas of the human penis. And, you can stimulate it by gently massaging it with your tongue or finger when giving them a handjob.
You can also give your partner an even more intense orgasm by stimulating their frenulum while they are in the middle of coming.
The corona
This is the mushroom-like ring around the base of the glans, which also divides the glans and shaft. It’s also one of the most sensitive areas of the penis and is enjoyed by most when stimulated.
This is the area you’d normally focus on when you intend to make your partner come. The idea is to give their penis shallow strokes and only take the head of the penis into your mouth, stimulating the corona with your lips.
Meanwhile, your tongue is not just chilling there and doing nothing, it could either be stimulating the frenulum, the tip of the penis (urethral opening), or the glans (if in a 69 position).
The Glans of The Penis
This is the head of the penis, it is the area above the Corona ring. And thanks to biology, we know that the head of the penis is the most sensitive area because it’s where most nerve endings are concentrated.
The glans can be stimulated using your upper lip and the top inner part of your mouth. If your partner likes it, you can also hover your upper teeth on the glans while your tongue massages the frenulum.
Another way to stimulate the glans is by giving your partner head while in a 69 position. In this position, the top of your tongue will be directly on the glans. You can then create different motions on the glans with your tongue such as circular, side-to-side or up-and-down motions.
Making Eye Contact
Looking straight into your partner’s eyes while sucking their cock can be a huge turn-on. However, if you’re not comfortable with being in a starring contest while giving your partner head, you don’t have to make eye contact.
Hidden pleasure
Hiding yourself and your actions can also be psychologically effective in massaging your partner’s sexual desires. Have them fantasize about what you might be doing to them that feels so damn good.
You can achieve this by covering your head with the covers while you go down on them. Or, give your partner an amazing head while they are tied up and blindfolded. It gives them a chance to play with their wildest fantasies with you in the centre of it all. For such fantasies, you can find the gear you need in our Bondage Gears.
The Added Value
Making eye contact has that added thing where you feel in control and dominant. It can also be a huge turn-on to look up at your partner and acknowledge that you are making them feel so fucking good.
Another thing about making eye contact is that you get to see what they enjoy most through their reactions. Also, looking deep into your partner’s eyes allows you to emotionally connect while pleasuring each other.
Deepthroating
This is an oral sex technique where you take your partner’s entire erect penis deep into your throat. It’s a technique casually demonstrated in porn movies and mostly enjoyed by men.
The Gag Reflex
This is a difficult technique to perform due to the natural gag reflex and it can be dangerous when not done correctly. Therefore, you don’t have to deepthroat your partner’s penis if you don’t feel comfortable with it. However, some Creams and Sprays make the experience enjoyable and worth remembering.
Use Your Hands
If your partner’s penis is too big to fit most of it in your mouth, use your hands to give them half of both a blowjob and handjob. This way, you’ll be able to give sensation through all parts of their penis without putting yourself in an uncomfortable position.
Where Do You Want It?
This is something that a lot of people tend to worry about, do you spit, do you swallow or is there something specific that you must do? Most men would most probably say, you must swallow.
I Want It In My Mouth
Regardless of what your partner prefers, it’s completely up to you whether you’re comfortable with them coming inside your mouth or not. You get to choose if you want to swallow, spit, or if you want them to even come in your mouth or not.
Not In My Mouth
Tell your partner where you want to have it beforehand. You can also have them come on your tummy, chest or even on your face if that’s what you want. As long as it’s something that you’re comfortable with.
With all that being said, it’s also important to always try and keep an open mind. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with swallowing cum and it’s something that you can learn over time with a little bit of practice.
Using Condoms
Condoms have come a long way, you can now enjoy oral sex without having to worry about Sexually Transmitted Deasises (STDs) and Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs).
Not only do some condoms smell delicious and taste great, but they also come in different shapes, sizes, and textures as well. Explore new sensations with our variety of flavoured condoms, and you don’t even have to worry about your partner coming inside your mouth.
Communication is important
We can’t stress enough the importance of communication in any relationship. You need to be able to talk to your partner about what they want, what you’re comfortable with and where to draw the line.
It’s important to make it a habit to talk to your partner before, during and after sex. You and your partner must always be in understanding and agreement with each other beforehand. If there’s something that doesn’t sit well with you, you need to talk to your partner about it as soon as possible. Your partner’s consent and comfort are as important as yours.
Another thing, don’t be afraid to talk dirty and use strong language during sex if your partner is okay with it. It’s okay to be vocal and make noises like a porn star when giving your partner head. So, moaning is also seductive and most people get turned on by it.
Practice Makes Perfect
It’s worth noting that we tend to enjoy doing something we’re good at. If you want to be good and confident in giving the best head (blowjob), practising will make you a blowjob guru. And, your partner will most certainly not mind helping you improve your blowjob skills.
They’ll be thrilled to learn that you’re concerned about improving your skills in giving them pleasure.
One more thing
If you take a lot of pride in being able to pleasure your partner with a blowjob, you’re going to be more turned on about giving somebody a blowjob. And if you let that be something that turns you on, you’ll most definitely enjoy giving head.
And remember, the aim of giving head is not to make your partner come but to enjoy giving them as much pleasure as possible. Lastly, make it a habit to give your partner head without them asking for it, it’s one of those little things that makes it even more exciting.
And there you have it, how to enjoy giving head. So, go make your partner happy and have fun while doing it.
